My Love Patches….an Alopecia Inspired Post <3

Hello Blessed One’s,

I have battled since i discovered my “patches” about sharing this portion of my life’s journey. But…because everyone knows that i connect through “over-sharing” some things, I decided that I wouldnt live in fear of what others may think, or say.

Here goes…I have Alopecia.

According to the National Alopecia Areata Foundation,

“Alopecia areata is a common disease that results in the loss of hair on the scalp and elsewhere on the body. There are three types of alopecia areata; alopecia areata, alopecia totalis and alopecia universalis.

Alopecia areata, the most common variation of the autoimmune disease, presents itself as round, smooth patches of various sizes.

In all forms of alopecia areata, the hair follicles remain alive and are ready to resume normal hair production whenever they receive the appropriate signal. In all cases, hair re-growth may occur even without treatment and even after many years.

Alopecia areata occurs in males and females of all ages and races; however, onset most often begins in childhood and can be psychologically devastating. Although not life-threatening, alopecia areata is most certainly life-altering, and its sudden onset, recurrent episodes, and unpredictable course have a profound psychological impact on the lives of those disrupted by this disease. But there is hope. In all cases, hair re-growth may occur even without treatment and even after many years.”   National Alopecia Areata Foundation

I found out that I had a bald spot one night at the beginning of July 2014 when I was combing through my hair. I thought I was going a little crazy at first because i had never had spots before in my head. I kind of came to tears and began to panic. I began texting pictures to friends and family..which they told me to calm down about. I asked if this was lupus, even cancer…because i just didnt understand how hair could just go missing. I did the only thing I heard and knew how to do. I “laid hands” on my bald spot. Now…. to non-spiritual people, “laying hands” would seem silly, but from where Im from its common. I figured if people could pray over other people, then surely prayer could help a bald spot. The next few days I make a dermatologist appointment with the sweetest doctor I know( Shout out to Dr. Love of Montgomery Al.). In my free time, i began inundating my mind with different websites and videos..trying to self diagnose myself before my appointment. I was sure it had to be the hair products I was using even as a natural. I made up my mind that no matter what I had inflicting my scalp, that I would try to make my own natural hair products, just in case.

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Mid-July arrives when its time for me to meet with Dr.Love. She and the nurse examine my scalp….as im waiting for the news. She lets me know that I have Alopecia Areata. Also, she alerts me that I have two other spots in the back of my head With a raised freckle(she cuts it from my scalp to test for cancer…results came back..and it is non cancerous). She explains that it is an autoimmune disease and sometimes it can come when the person is under severe stress. I started to think ” hmmmm….I have been under a lot of personal stress lately…”. She told me try to eliminate the stress, get a massage, and go forth with receiving the steroid injections to stimulate my hair growth. I wasn’t scared about a needle going into my scalp because 1.) Im a diabetic and 2.) I want my hair to grow back. I did it. :)

It is now mid- August, my hair is sprouting some new hair and im excited! She said it would take at least 3 months for hair to begin growing. For a few weeks I was fearful to wear it down. I was on a trip to New Orleans and asked my sister to do a “bald spot check” periodically. I was nervous that my “spots” would go noticed. Sometimes, people can be vicious and say mean things.

I remind myself daily that my testimony and my journey isnt just for me, but it is for someone else. I cant Not share my experience ,because someone else may be about to go through, or is going through what I am going through in life.

This is my first step to accepting that Im going to HAVE to LOVE my 3 patches…because their now an extension of me. It is also a reminder to not put energy into pointless places, or people.

If it feels like stress….SLOWLYYYYYY back away…no actually RUN away. You dont have to subject yourself to a stressful situation-EVER.It doesnt matter if its a job-Pray and Fast for a new one, if its a spouse- try to work it out, but dont kill yourself doing it, and if its family/friends-love them from a distance, etc.

I will give an update towards the end of the month about my progress.

PS. Olive oil and/or Jamaican Black castor oil works well and is a natural way to help with Alopecia. Also, water/lavender essential oil is great for growing hair, I’ve noticed, and it makes your hair smell Awesome!! <3  Rosemary apparently helps with Alopecia, too.

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Peace and Blessings,

Random Mixed Chick

DIY Food: Healthy Ice Cream

Hello Everyone!

I found this really cute website called Kids Activities Blog. They have all sorts of fun activities for the little one’s to do..traceables, art and crafts, in/outdoor activities, and RECIPES!

My kids love ice cream and sweet treats, so i thought i would try my hand at some homemade ice cream. Not only would I save money, but i could do something fun that they could remember always….awwwww!! <3

So….I tried with this recipe…i really tried. Second time around will be the charm. ;)

I started by freezing my bananas on wax paper last night. Secondly, I put my bananas in the blender. Now…this was no small feat…I had to end up churning my banana ice cream with a spoon after all. I would highly suggest a food processor for this recipe.The frozen banana didn’t do well with my blender…in fact i thought for sure i would have to buy a new one, so I added a little milk to make it blend with ease. Thirdly, I mixed my cocoa powder and my almond butter(the recipe said peanut butter, but i’m sure you can substitute it depending if your child has allergies) with my banana. Lastly,I put my fresh and healthy ice cream in a sealed container to freeze. I did check on it after 3 hours and its creamy and light tasting!

My kids can hardly for their sweet treat tomorrow!.

Here is the link for you to DIY too! :)  Leave me a comment in the box below on how your recipe turns out.

http://kidsactivitiesblog.com/57682/no-churn-ice-cream

Peace and Blessings,

Random Mixed Chick

 

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Journey of Singlehood: Alone, but Never Lonely

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Hello Blessed and Beautiful One’s!

I find myself almost 8 months post-single…and guess what? I’m happy and Satisfied. In any journey, there will be past memories and struggles along the way. The road is never promised to be super easy. Letting go and giving my troubles to God turned out not to be so hard. I made my choice and was satisfied in it. I hear people always say, “when she is tired, she will no longer argue” or “when a woman is fed up...” …well I was well over due to end that chapter of my life, after 5 years and two children.

To be honest, we always argued and I was always so fearful of leaving. We went to relationship workshops and even sought counseling to help with our issues.At times, I felt like i couldn’t survive without him, but who i didn’t involve enough in my relationship was God, until the very end. I kept praying and making broken promises to God until the end of last year.

Love, to me, isn’t fearful when God is involved. Jesus is Love. I wrestled with that relationship for 5 years and when i finally decided to let go and let God…i felt so free. It was much hurt and pain paired with some happy times. We both fell short in certain aspects of each other, but I wouldn’t want to change anything. Those 5 years is my story, my journey…and i truly believe that their is better to come..along with my Boaz.

My future husband will love me unconditionally, he will respect me, he will adore me, he will comfort me, he will not be intimidated by anything, he will be so much like God that it would be hard for me to tell the difference…and that, in my heart i know, is some very powerful love here on Earth.

Until I am found, i will continue to witness, share my life stories, and all of my testimonies for others to know that you need not be fearful of anything, but the Lord.

 

Peace and Blessings,

Random Mixed Chick

“Train A Child Up In The Way That He Should Go”

“No!!!!, But I dont wanna’!”, exclaimed random child. The mother is thinking to herself, “How embarrassing, let me just make it out the store dear (whatever your Maker’s name is)!”, as she becomes flushed in the face. I’m sure if youre parent, then at least one time you have experienced your child saying that to you-in a public place.  Why is it that kids always want to “act up”, as my parents would say, in public? Do they believe that their actions will go unscathed and be forgettable just because they are around others? Nope. Not at all.

 

I write this because I have recently had this experience with my “Beans” in a public. It just seems that they know when to turn it on :). I AM the one about speeches-at home, or in my car, especially to my eldest. “Now, when you get in (business name), I want you to behave, say yes maam/sir, and Dont touch anything-that youre not supposed to touch”. There is a 50% failure rate; kids will be kids.

So, here are some ways that you can “train” your child(ren) in a sense before, during, and, after departing from home.

 

Tip #1: Have a game-plan of what youre going to do if your kids have melt-down. I usually “try” to carry fruit, or some type of snack on hand. Treats do the trick! As long as they are occupied with something when will they have time to do anything else, right? Just bring lots…and if you want to kick it up a notch-healthy treats. I’m going to begin getting my ideas from Pinterest.

 

Tip#2: Youre at the check-out line at your local grocer….and a melt down is coming? Dont freak out…start playing hand games with your kids. I play “Up High, Down Low” and a tickle game. Who cares if they are hysterical laughing, just as long as they arent hysterical crying, right?

 

Tip#3: If it has gone way past the snacks and games and they arent feeling that either, then its time to get “let me whisper in your ear” close because were about to have “coming to Jesus(whatever your maker’s name is)” moment nearby. You now to have your strong poker face on(I’m working on it because I give in to soon :) )

 

Tip#4: Dont take, give rewards. As parents, its so easy to make threats to take items away, but does it ever really work all the time? Nope. I have been there and done this. I recently had this advice given to me, so thats why I feel its so important to share. Rewarding isnt about bribing, its about making sure he/she obeys their parents. Children love to please. If my kids know that doing what I asked them to do gets them a high-five’s, that means the world to them because their deeds have Not gone unnoticed. Of course, youre going to have to up the ante as your children grow.

 

 

 

I hope my tips help with your next meltdown! :)

 

 

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Peace and Blessings,

 

Random Mixed Chick

 

“I give myself away…” :)

Hello Guys and Gals,

I left you adownload (1)ll temporarily, but i am back! Did you miss me? :)

I felt inspired for many reasons tonight/this morning, but one in particular was that this month, September, was the month I visited my mom in the hospital and about 5 weeks from the day that she passed away. This post is my update with her passing/depression/mourning/new life/ new thinking… yes it is that much!

At the beginning of 2013, I found myself at times very unstable and depressed because I had to find  a way to cope. I searched many sites and talked to many people, but I found for me that it had to be My process of how I was going to deal with it.

I fell into the deepest depression that i have ever felt. Know what pulled me out?

Meditating on the Word and praying to my God.

This is why i want to share this song at the bottom with you all because it came to me as I was trying to fall asleep moments ago. I had to give myself away so He could use me. My trials are not my trials alone, I share my experiences with others to give them the right words to hear when they experience my trials.

I still cry and mourn every now and then for her, but i pick myself back up with hopes that her memory never fades in my mind and that i meet her in the Spirit world when it is my time.

Back in March and April, I was still deeply depressed and going through relationship issues, but found my way back to the Bible, listening to gospel(I havent completely let go of my R&B and Neo Soul), and started thinking positive.

I’m better, but it’s a day by day process.

Today…I still “Give myself away…” :)

Peace and Blessings,

Random Mixed Chick

William McDowell “I give myself away” Song

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5rrrGYt5EY&list=PL7699D493C8165C21

Weight Loss Journey Part 7

Good Day Beautiful Soul’s! :) Hope everyone had a great weekend.

My weekend was getting more posts together for you lovely chicks and dudes, while catching up on some classwork online.

So far I lost 5 pounds and that is a great start -for me. :) It’s not huge, but I know it will be more in a 2-3 months. Especially if I continue my exercise regime and using my “Strict Diabetic Diet” guidelines per my Endocrinologist, which are basically that I eat (3) meals a day that consist only of 45 grams of Carbs and (2) snacks that are under 15 grams of Carbs. This seems very strict, but it is actually something that even non-diabetic people should follow. In America, we tend to overeat and be overweight/obese because of the portions that we eat. Keep in mind to that if you do not READ the Nutrition labels, watching those calories and carbs will do no justice. Who wants high blood pressure and water weight?

Here is a challenge when you go out to eat with friends or family:

Either share your meal and split the bill, or if it is just toooooo’ good to share, then ask for your “To-go” box when your food comes out and save some for lunch, or dinner tomorrow. It’s hard, but I’m going to do it and I want you to do it with me. Some diseases ARE preventable and being at the unhappy weight you are now is sometimes preventable.

My biggest challenge is emotional eating and being ashamed of it. I have had that issue even growing up in high school, but then i was so good at hiding it, or being in activities daily at school that I was able to keep my weight from going up so far. I was listening to family members who would tell me how fat I was and how big my legs were and for that very same reason today I admire those women who are in shape with “big booty’s and big thighs”. I want to keep mine and happy with that part of me. Now, I have a man, kids, school, relationships with friends and family, and hell- LIFE. We all know that can be stressful. :) My life currently is dealing with proving to myself and family that I am capable of having a successful career, the ups and downs of maintaining a HEALTHY relationship with my Significant Other,and- while sometimes dealing with the emotion of my mom dying almost 4 months ago. That makes me want to eat everything ALL day, Every day. I and you, if youre dealing with emotional eating, have to find other positive ways to deal with the situation. Sometimes I blog, as Im doing now, to keep urges at bay. :)

On another note, while on Metformin, it is definitely helping me with my urges to eat if i take it while eating at dinner(5-6ish PM). I have felt like i couldnt put anything else to my mouth on this medication, which is a good thing for me. The not so nice thing about this medication is that you better be near a bathroom at least 30-60 min after you eat..Im serious. ;P

It has made me nauseous sometimes and leaves this weird taste in mouth similar to the one i had when i was pregnant. Those things do not mix. LOL. My blood sugars have been running pretty good with the lowest being 96 in the morning and the highest around lunch at 173, and that’s because i ate two bowls of Corn Flakes w/ regular sugar. Yep, not so good. Other than that Im getting a better grip on controlling my numbers. Now i just need a variety of foods to eat to satisfy my appetite.

I hope this post today has helped someone out there and if you ever need to talk about your emotional eating, email me at randommixedchick@gmail.com or leave me a comment below.

Peace and Blessings,

Random Mixed Chick

Here is a photo of me at about 212 lbs. almost 2 weeks ago after working out at the gym.

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Weight Loss Journey Part 6

Dear Random People….

Sighs….okay so as i re-read my title, yep..the same title that i have i been labeling these post, it feels like a journey, but without the weight loss. I do these post and document my journey even when im ashamed(going back to my pregnancy weight) because someone out there is probably going through something similar. This isnt the toughest thing I have ever done, but it is the most revealing thing that I have ever exposed to the world each week…or two. :) This journey that im going through makes me want to cry a lot, it makes me emotional and depressed sometimes because Im not seeing the weight loss results I want right away, and it makes me want to give up at times. However, I cant because I have “my little beans” that count on my livelihood. I hardly ever quit anything i do, so this hurdle too shall pass. I will get to my weight loss goal of 150-160 pounds along with a shapely derriere to top it off! Got to keep what i have tight already! ;)

Great News:

Had a visit for the first time with my endocrinologist and he checked off that my blood sugars and A1C looks positively great! In October of 2012 i had a A1C of about a 12 and today my number stands at whopping 7.9. My goal is naturally a 6. We talked about my weight gain. We decided that it would be necessary to ease me off the Novolog (short acting insulin) onto Metformin, which will also help me lose weight instead of gaining as i take my diabetic medications. Im also happy to say that he strongly believes I am a Type 2 diabetic and that I dont actually have kidney damage! Whew!!! With my past post, I must have read the results incorrectly because I only have protein spillage. I can settle with that. 

So it definitely is some good things coming out of this weeks journey nonetheless, I can only be grateful that it is not worse. :)

Also, Im going to do MORE extensive research on my body type this week an next week… because im thinking building muscle over fat is not going to be the best route for me at this point. Im planning to do my cardio on the treadmill, Zumba, and maybe a Step class until i get to my desired weight. 

Hopefully next week will show some results in the direction i want it to :)

Stay tuned for more of my journey to come……

Peace and Blessings,

Random Mixed Chick

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